I heard this week on WMBI radio something from your group about gay issues... I have a teenage son who thinks he's gay...a high-schooler. I don't believe he is yet entrenched in any sort of gay lifestyle. . . What's a mom to do with a loved one who is beginning to believe he's gay?!
My heart goes out to you in dealing with your precious son who has been lied to about being gay. It's one thing to have same-gender feelings, but quite another to put the "gay" label on oneself when it doesn't have to be that way.
I have two suggestions for you. First, a book was written for EXACTLY young men like him, which I strongly suggest you get, read, and give to him. It's called You Don't Have to Be Gay by Jeff Konrad. Amazon.com carries it; so does Regeneration Books (www.regenbooks.org), in association with Exodus International, the umbrella organization for ex-gay ministries. This book is a series of letters written by a man who discovered that through the power of Christ he could leave his homosexual identity behind, to a young man just beginning to consider that option. The wonderful thing is, the young man who received the letters is Mike Haley, who WAS healed of homosexuality and now works for Focus on the Family as a youth and gender specialist. Mike has put together some awesome materials for kids in exactly your son's position, and I suggest you contact Focus (1-800-A-FAMILY) and ask for the literature on youth and homosexuality. (That's my second suggestion.)
In the meantime, we have several articles on homosexuality on the Probe Ministries website that may be of help to you:
Homosexuality: Questions and Answers
Can Homosexuals Change?
I hope this helps. The Lord bless you and keep you in these difficult days.
In His grip,
About the Author
Sue Bohlin is an associate speaker with Probe Ministries. She attended the University of Illinois, and has been a Bible teacher and conference speaker for over 35 years. She is a frequent speaker for MOPS (Mothers of Pre-Schoolers) and Stonecroft Ministries (Christian Women's Connections), and serves on the board and as a small group leader of Living Hope Ministries, a Christ-centered outreach to those dealing with unwanted homosexuality. Sue is on the Bible.org Women's Leadership Team and is a regular contributor to Bible.org's Tapestry Blog. She is also a professional calligrapher and the webmistress for Probe Ministries; but most importantly, she is the wife of Dr. Ray Bohlin and the mother of their two grown sons. Her personal website is suebohlin.com.
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